Mangalore Qazi asks Muslim youth to take a pledge against dowry

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April 18, 2012

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Mangalore, April 18: Terming dowry as a 'curse' and an 'epidemic' afflicting the community, Mangalore Qazi Twaqa Ahmed Musliyar on Wednesday urged affluent sections of the community to take a pledge in the public that they will shun dowry and desist from extravagant marriage celebrations.

Speaking after inaugurating the 'Varadakshine Virodhi Sammelana' here at Town Hall under the aegis of Wafa Charitable Trust, Mangalore, the Qazi insisted that the problem cannot be solved by mere speeches and sermons by the Qateebs and the scholars.

“The problem can be solved only through change of heart. We have to change the mindset of the people. Today, every parent thinks about conducting his or her son/dauther's wedding in a grand manner. But, according to Islam, marriage can be solemnized in the presence of just two witnesses. As per Islamic traditions, marriage is a very simple and easy process. But unfortunately, we have converted this into a huge problem,” the Qazi said.

Quoting verses from Quran and the traditions of the prophet, Twaqa Ahmed Musliyar, exhorted the community members to come forward and enroll names of their son/daughter in a registrar stating that they would not take dowry and would conduct the marriage in a simple way.

“This can be one way of solving the problem. We should also ask youth of marriageable age to come forward and declare that they would desist dowry and follow austerity during their wedding,” he said and declared that 'mass marriages' are not the permanent solution to the deep-rooted problem of dowry.

Explaining how dowry has become a menace for Muslim community both in India and abroad, the Qazi said, many parents are not able to marry off their daughters even though they have crossed the marriageable age as they are not able to meet the requirements of the groom and his parents. “The problem acquires a different dimension in the Arabian countries. In several middle-east countries, youths are not able to get married because of the demand for huge money from the parents of the girl. Although, Islam makes it mandatory for the groom to give 'mehr' before marriage, the bride and her parents are making things difficult for the young males, by putting forth unreasonable demands. In several gulf countries, the government had to intervene to help out economically backward men in their bid to get married. The banks are also offering loans to prospective bridegrooms,” he said.

Umar U.H., general secretary, Al Wafa Charitable Trust, who presented a paper titled 'How can we build a dowry-free society', insisted that dowry was an anathema in Islam, and was not found during the Prophet Mohammed's period or the period of Khilaphat in Islam.

“Islam has clearly laid down that a man should give mehr during the wedding to his wife and this has to be fixed prior to the marriage. Unfortunately, we see it being transformed into a mere ritual today,” he said.

Dealing on the ill-effects of dowry, he said, the demands for dowry could also lead to a spurt in inter-caste marriages. “Families are becoming pauper by selling off their home and other properties just to get their daughters married. Those who do not have any property to sell borrow money from banks or financial institutions and entangle themselves in the trap of loan. A good number of marriages are today breaking down because dowry continues to play a predominant role even after marriage and the feelings of trust and love get sidelined. Many Muslim women are undergoing harassment and abuse because of dowry. The dowry menace is also leading to polygamous marriages with the greedy men going for new alliances after getting a taste of the ill-gotten money,” he said.

On the issue of extravagance and lavishness during the wedding, he highlighted the need to creare awareness in the community about simple marriages. He also flayed spending lavishly for the invitation and urged the people to bring it to the notice of the people at the time of accepting the invitation.

However, he insisted, that it was not wrong on the part of the well-off families to hold their weddings according to their prestige. “When two well-off families get ready to celebrate their marriage, they would invariably have to invite more number of people in conformity with their prestige, requirements of their field and profession. They will also have to go for spacious auditoriums accordingly. They will have to provide good food for the invitees. Such marriages cannot be called as extravagant marriages. However, if someone just for the sake of prestige borrows money during marriage, that can be termed as squandering of wealth,” he observed.

He urged the youth to register their protest against dowry and extravagant marriage functions. “Dowry is not just a problem of the poor. It has also taken the rich in its fold. It is a bad custom. We can form a dowry-free society if there is fear of God in the minds of the people along with the fear of having to face a protest,” Mr. Umar observed.

Responding to the paper, Abdul Raheem Teekay, founder president of the Kendra Beary Sahitya Parishat, Mangalore, said it would be a futile exercise if we did not get to the bottom of the issue when discussing issues like dowry. He also said that it was necessary to deconstruct the popular myths while finding a solution to the problem of dowry. “It is easy to blame the Ulemas and the rich for the menace. But we should also try to understand how such customs become socially inevitable for a young boy who with his limited earning has to invite his family and friends for his wedding reception,” he said.

NKM Shafi Saadi, president, Karnataka Wakf Board, Mysore Region, said dowry was an unislamic and evil custom, which is rampant all over the State. However, reacting to the pleas for declaring it as haram (forbidden), he said scholars do not have the jurisdiction to issue such a fatwa. “It has to be based on the teachings of Quran and Hadith,” he observed.

B.A. Mohammed Haneef, Working president of Akhila Bharata Beary Parishat, Mangalore, took objections to the veiled defence of 'extravagant wedding celebrations' in the paper presented by Umer. “This was uncalled for. I am also disappointed by the speech of the Qazi, who still thinks change of heart is the solution. He should admit that scholars and religious leaders have a huge role to play in the eradication of the menace,” he said.

Mohammed Badruddin, president of Al Wafa Charitable Trust, delivered a welcome speech. He said as many as 30 marriages of poor couples had been solemnised by the organisation last year. S.B. Yusuf Musliyar, Khateeb of Kanjalkodi Jumma Masjid, recited verses from Holy Quran. Abdul Razak Ananthady compered the programme.

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Mangaluru, Apr 24: The last rites of the elderly woman who died of covid-19 yesterday was finally held in the wee hours of Friday amidst tight security at Kaikunje Hindu Rudra Bhoomi near BC Road bus stand in spite of severe opposition from the members of the own community.

The funeral was held as per the protocol for COVID-19 deaths, police said.

Prior to this hundreds of Hindus had staged a protest  last night in front of Pachanady Hindu Rudra Bhoomi near Vamanjoor following reports that the the 77-year-old coronavirus positive woman's mortal remains will be cremated there.

Mangaluru North MLA Bharat Shetty rushed to the spot and convinced the protesters that he will not allow the authorities to cremate the body at Pachanady. Hence, the authorities shifted the cremation venue, it is learnt. 

Meanwhile, many local residents staged protest at Pachanady against the cremation of the dead body of a coronavirus positive woman. Hence, additional police force was sent from Mangaluru to disperse the crowd and facilitate the last rite.

According to sources, initially the authorities had  planned to cremate body at Baddakatte Hindu Rudra Bhoomi near here native place in Bantwal. However, the locals and the community elders had forced the authorities to change the plan.

Such protests due to misconception about the spread of coronavirus had been witnessed in some other parts of the country, including in Chennai, and the governments have warned of action against those opposing cremation or burial of COVID-19 patients.

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Family members waited outside the Indira Gandhi International Airport for hours, but they were later told to go back home as the remains of expats Jagsir Singh, Sanjeev Kumar and Kamlesh Bhatt were flown back to Abu Dhabi, following a new order implemented by India's Ministry of Home Affairs.

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Veteran journalist P. Sainath has said that the nation is in a crisis. And this crisis is not limited to just the rural area. It has become a national crisis at various areas such as agriculture, education, economy, job creation etc.

He was delivering the endowment lecture on the topic ‘Indian democracy at the post-liberalization and post-truth era’ at Media Manthan 2020 organized by the PG department of journalism and mass communication at St Aloysius College (Autonomous). 

Mr Sainath said that the many policies adopted in the 90s led to India becoming unusually unequal. Referring to the speech Ambedkar had made at the Constituent Assembly while handing over the draft of the Constitution, Mr Sainath said, “Ambedkar had warned about the weakness of Indian democracy that liberty without equality allows the supremacy of a few over the multitude. Liberty, equality and fraternity must be kept together as we cannot have one without the other.” 

Mr Sainath stated that the agrarian crisis was no longer about the loss of productivity, employment or about farmer suicide; it was a societal, civilizational crisis. Commenting on the lopsided policies such as cow-slaughter ban, he explained how cow slaughter ban had adversely affected many industries due to their interdependency. While Muslims who slaughtered cows were rendered helpless, the cattle traders who were mostly OBCs lost their earnings as the cattle prices crashed. An important industry like Kolhapur sandals industry in Maharashtra went bankrupt as a result of the cow slaughter ban in Maharashtra. He said the policymakers had no idea how the rural industries were interconnected. Demonetisation too devastated the rural economy as 98 percent of rural transactions happen through cash. 

Mr Sainath also spoke about the crisis of inequality which affects the Dalits and the Adivasis far more than anyone else as 90 percent of the rural households take home less than Rs 10,000/- per month. “Women are yet another group whose labour is never counted in the gross domestic product. Women and girls globally do unpaid work which amounts to about 12.5 billion working hours per year. Monetarily speaking, this is worth 10.8 trillion dollars,” Mr Sainath added. 

Speaking about the crisis of jobs Mr Sainath said that major companies were laying off employees just to create more profits for the investors and the adoption of artificial intelligence in the industry would further destroy millions of jobs.

Rector of St Aloysius College Institutions Fr Dionysius Vaz SJ, Principal Dr (Fr) Praveen Martis SJ, HOD of Journalism and Mass Communication department Dr (Fr) Melwyn Pinto SJ were present.

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Addressing the gathering during his endowment lecture on Friday, Mr Sainath made an interesting comment on the so called ‘revenue model’. “Whenever I visit IIMs and IITs for lectures on my PARI project, the students there ask me what my revenue model for my project is. I tell them that I do not have a revenue model. In fact, journalism does not begin with a revenue model. Gandhiji, Ambedkar, Bhagat Singh were all great journalists. But they did not have a revenue model,” Mr Sainath said.

On a lighter note, he said that the best revenue model that he liked was that of forest brigand Veerappan and liquor baron Vijay Mallya. “Veerappan ruled the forest for forty years and from the top ministers to the villagers he could dictate terms and liver royally. Similarly, Mallya’s revenue model was to steal the banks and run away abroad and live like a king,” Mr Sainath added.

Journalism is not and can never be a business. It is a calling, he opined. While newspaper can be a business, television can be a business, journalism per se cannot be reduced to a business. “Unfortunately today, journalists are recruited on a contract basis and they have no bargaining power; and there are no unions to fight for their cause. Hence, they are at the mercy of the corporate media houses for their survival and are made to write stories that cannot be called journalism,” Mr Sainath said.

Answering a question as to the pressures he faced as a journalist, he said that external pressures from the government or others could be very well handled. It is the internal pressures from once own media house that journalists find it difficult to manage.

 

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