Jayanti, the estranged wife of Sukumar, says she is ready to forgive and revive marital life

June 12, 2012

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Uppinangady, June 12: If you think all the eight women, who were tricked to marry Rajesh alias Sukumar, who is in police custody now, would be dying to see stringent punishment being handed to the culprit, you may be wrong. Call it Stockholm syndrome, or the magnanimity of the highest order, Jayanti, one of the eight victims, is more than willing to forgive him and revive marital life with him.

“I will definitely accept him as my husband. I cannot think of marrying anyone again. If he returns, I will try to bring him to the right path. But will he come back?” asks Jayanti, a resident of Ilanthila in Uppinangady, who tied the knot with the conman on September 2, 2004.

For Jayanti, the marital life had hardly been anything but enjoyable. He parents had to foot a marriage bill of Rs. 75,000, besides decorating their daughter in eight sovereign gold ornaments. A plot measuring 35 cents was sold for Rs. 1.5 lakh by her mother to meet the expenses of marriage. “But in four months my ornaments disappeared. My husband also went missing,” says Jayanti, who now ekes out a living by rolling beedies at a hutment.

“Our relationship was good in the first two months .He used to come home regularly. But in the next two months his behavior was bit erratic. Whenever he came to Uppinagnady, he used to tell me that he was tired of working in the hotel and wanted to set up a small shop in Uppingangdy,” reveals Jayanti.

“He had set his eyes on my jewelry. Initially he used to ask in a polite way. But gradually, he became rude. One by one he took away all my ornaments. He would also harass me for money. The last time he left home, he had my finger ring and a necklace with him,” she says.

Luck or lack of it had played a major role in her getting married to Sukumar. “Eight years ago there was a vadhu noduva karyakrama at a relative's place in Agathadi in Mani. My brother had been to the function. But, the talks of marriage had fallen off due to some reason. My brother then spoke to Sukumar about me and invited him to come home and see the girl. Accordingly, he came home and agreed to marry me. But, we were not in a position to meet their demand of Rs. 50,000 and 10 pawn gold. Hence the talks failed. But he came back again and said he would become our mane aliya and accepted the offer,” says Jayanti.

Jayanti had resigned to the idea of living without her husband after just four months of marital life. It was not until Sunday, when the news of his arrest was flashed on newspapers, the young woman had heard anything about her husband. “I realized that I had been cheated only after seeing his pictures in the newspapers,” she says, trying to hold back her tears. “When there was no trace of Sukumar for years, my mother and other relatives kept prodding me to marry someone. They used to tell me that Sukumar might have married some other girl and would have started a new family. But, I didn't lose heart. I always believed that he would come back to me. I have this karimani as proof of our marriage. But, I did not enjoy even a moment of marital life,” rues the young woman.

It may be recalled here that Sukumar alias Rajesh Anchan (32) was arrested by the Udupi police in Madikeri with assistance from activists of Jayakarantaka Sanghatane and has since been remanded to 15-day judicial custody.


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April 16,2020

Bengaluru, Apr 16: In view of the raging coronavirus pandemic, no public iftaar or sehri will be organized during Ramazan, the month of fasting for the Muslims, the Karnataka Minority Welfare Department announced here on Thursday.

"No public shall be allowed to perform five-time congregational prayers in mosques, across Karnataka during Ramazan in view of COVID-19 pandemic. No public address system to be used by the staff of mosques for offering namaz,'' the department said.

During the holy month of Ramazan, it is a tradition to organise iftaar feasts for large gatherings by different people, especially by politicians, celebrities and the common wealthy people for their friends and family.

Ramazan is to commence from the 24th or 25th of April this year, depending on the sighting of the moon.

The order stated that Azaan (the call for prayer) shall be given at low decibel and namaaz including Friday namaaz, will be performed by the imams, moazzins and the masjid staff only.
No public should be allowed to offer namaaz in the mosques as per government directions, it said.

The state government also cited an order by the Ministry of Home Affairs dated April 15, which stated that "All religious places/places of worship shall be closed for public. Religious congregations are strictly prohibited due to the outbreak of COVID-19 across the country."
Thirty-four more COVID-19 cases, including 17 cases from Belagavi, have been reported from Karnataka. The total number of coronavirus cases in the state now stands at 313.

The total number of cases in India has now climbed to 12,380. Out of these cases, 1489 have been cured/discharged/migrated while 414 deaths have been reported so far, as per the latest data provided by the Ministry of Health and Family Welfare.

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March 24,2020

Bengaluru, Mar 24: Eight new positive coronavirus cases were confirmed in Karnataka on Tuesday, taking the tally to 41 in the state, the health department said.

"Till date 41 COVID-19 positive cases have been confirmed in the state which includes one death and 3 discharged," the department said.

According the department bulletin, 37 positive patients are in isolation at designated hospitals and their condition is stable.

Of the 41 confirmed cases, six are transit passengers hailing from Kerala who have landed in airports and being treated in Karnataka.

Among the eight passengers confirmed on Tuesday also three men and a woman are from Kasaragod in Kerala with a history of travel to Dubai and Saudi Arabia respectively.

All the four had landed in Mangaluru, where they are being treated.

The others are: two men, aged 40 and 65, from Uttara Kannada district in Karnataka with travel history to Dubai;

a 56-year-old woman, a resident of Chikkaballapura district, who is a family member and co-passenger of person who tested postive with travel history to Mecca, and a 56-year-old woman, resident of Bengaluru, a contact of another person who has tested positive for the virus,

Among the 41 cases, 24 has been reported from Bengaluru, five from Dakshina Kannada, three each from Kalaburgai and Chikkaballapura, two each from Mysuru and Uttara Kannada, and one each from Kodagu and Dharwad.

All the three discharged patients are from Bengaluru, while one death was reported in Kalaburagi earlier this month, which was the country's first COVID-19 related death.

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February 23,2020

Mangalore University has been participating in the campus bird count a sub-event of ‘Great backyard bird count’ (GBBC) organized by Bird Count India for the past 5 years. This year, CBC was held from 14th to 17th February of 2020 across various campuses in India.

This year the four days event was successfully ended up with the sightings of 103 species of birds from various locations across the campus spread on 300 acres. In this Black Drongo, Black Kite, Brahminy Kite, Common Iora, Green Wabler, Purple-rumed Sunbird, Red-whiskered Bulbul, White-cheeked Barbet, Jungle Babbler and Plum headed parakeets were the common birds, and also observed House Crow with nest and nestlings, Indian Robin nest with eggs, Bronzed Drongo constructing the nest and Shikra mating and carrying nesting materials.  Whereas Yellow-billed Babbler is rare in the campus, Ashy Drongo, Barn Swallow, Booted Eagle, Grey Wagtail, Indian Pitta etc. were migratory birds, Grey-headed Bulbul (Near Threatened bird), Rufous Babbler and Grey-headed Bulbul were Western Ghats Endemics  and Brown Wood Owl, Barn Owl, Spotted Owlet, Nightjars (Savanna, Indian and Jerdon’s) and Sri Lanka Frogmouth were nocturnal birds. Blue-eared Kingfisher Grey-bellied Cuckoo which was very rare and new additions to avian list of the campus.

In the first year (2016) of Mangalore University’s CBC recorded 77 species, in 2017 recorded 95 species, in 2018 recorded 110 species and in 2019 recorded 107 species of birds. However some of the common species like Rose ringed parakeets, Blue tailed bee-eater, Nilgiri Flowerpecker and Indian roller etc., sighted last year were not seen this year. But with 2 new additions from this CBC, the checklist of Mangalore University Campus has been updated with a total of 141 species.

This event was coordinated by Vivek Hasyagar from the Department of Applied Zoology and Maxim Rodrigues from the Department of Marine Geology. Survey trails were led by more than 60 students and research scholars from various Departments of Mangalore University includes Applied Zoology, Biosciences, Microbiology, Botany, Physics, Chemistry and Material Science.  In addition, some enthusiastic participants from St. Aloysius College had involved in identifying the birds around the campus.

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Wild/planned fire affects negatively on the existing ecologically sensitive areas in and around the campus especially in lateritic grasslands. Because many insectivorous birds are dependent on these lateritic grassland habitats for their food and breeding grounds for many ground dwelling birds like Yellow wattled lapwing, Red wattled lapwing, Indian Robin and Barred buttonquails. Conserving these habitats will be helpful in protecting these birds.

Quotes from the participants: “The Campus Bird Count 2020 at Mangalore University was an experience of its own kind. Observing birds in their natural habitat gave me new perspective of viewing them not only as another living being, but as equals, or even of higher intelligence. The Campus Bird Count is an important step towards documenting bird life year after year, and creating awareness amongst youngsters, so that proper conservation steps can be taken to protect them from human interference”.

-Jyotsna Dessai ( 1 M.Sc Zoology)

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