Acid attack and 43 surgeries later, she fashions a fresh start

July 20, 2014

Acid attackNew Delhi, Jul 20: Monica Singh's face lights up when she talks her dream to study fashion marketing at Parson's New School of Design in New York. The 28-year-old's flair for style is evident in how she is dressed — a smart skirt paired with a fitted black blouse, and a scarf stylishly draped around her throat.

What the scarf hides are the bandages from a neck surgery, the 43rd reconstruction procedure she has undergone since a horrific acid attack nine years ago. A bulb of acid five hired goons threw on her in Lucknow to avenge a rejected marriage proposal had severely burnt her torso and face.

But Monica is an irrepressible optimist, and she chooses not to play the victim. Despite the long recovery, the many setbacks and the trauma, she is full of life. Her energies are focused on her impending postgraduate course at Parson's and ways to raise the funds for it. She is looking to get crowdfunding for her studies on the web.

She has posted a YouTube video which tells her story on crowdfunding sites such as indiegogo and put out a plea for grants on the makelovenotscars.org, a site for acid-attack survivors.

"I can go only if I manage to raise the money for my studies," Monica says. She is $50,000 short of realizing her dream. Her pillar of support is her brother Nikhil Singh (31), currently the only earning member in her family.

Monica was in the first year of her undergraduate course in apparel design at the National Institute of Fashion Technology (NIFT) when she was attacked in her home town. After an entire year in hospital in Lucknow and spending close to Rs 50 lakh on reconstruction surgeries, she resolutely returned to Delhi to resume her studies.

The courts have given her little relief. Two of Monica's attackers are in custody but three are out on bail. Under the new law passed last April, Monica would have been entitled to compensation, both from the state government as well as the accused. Unfortunately, the assault on Monica pre-dates this so she does not stand to benefit from the law.

Her case is still being heard in the high court now but she has no hopes of justice. "My father paid for my medical expenses. I had to submit my bills again and again and we hoped the court would order compensation but that never happened. I cannot beg or plead or act the victim any more. For me and my family, my career was the most important thing. I can go for a hearing once more if I was assured justice but not more than that," she says.

Monica got several internships with well-known brands and fashion magazines after her graduation but keeping a job was difficult. "People knew that I tire easily because my physical condition. But I really did my best. I breathe fashion. That's how much I love my job," she says.

Monica's father, a banker, backed her all the way. But he passed away recently, and now the family is no position to fund her studies in New York. But she refuses to give up her hopes of studying at Parson's. Her passion, she says, is unshakeable. "When Alexander McQueen passed away, I was in mourning for five days. I cried. They are gods to me," she says.

Monica says she designs western couture and loves drama and flamboyance in her works. Her collection for her college show was called 'Vegas on the Ramp', and inspired by casinos and roulettes.

The designer says she is used to running into people who have problems with her appearance but she doesn't let it upset her. "For me beauty is above appearances, it's in your intelligence and in art," she says. She is the first in her family to study abroad.

Monica is a first in many ways. She is the first to have extensive plastic surgery for her face in Lucknow. "The surgeon tried a new kind of facial graft on her for the first time — he used skin from her back to do it. My sister is amazing. Doctors told me several times that she managed to recover only because of her grit," says Nikhil.

She does not tip toe around the subject of her face and the reconstruction procedures. "The face is your identity. You can either retain the old one or get a new one. I decided to get a new face," she says.

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June 13,2020

Washington, Jun 13: American actor Gwyneth Paltrow is opening up about her experience during the coronavirus quarantine.

According to Fox News, the 47-year-old star explained to Shape magazine, the July-August cover issue of which she has graced -- that she hadn't realised just "how much the normal pace of life was overburdening our bodies, our minds, and our nervous systems."

The Goop founder explained, "As we have been forced into the confines of our own homes, that has brought up a lot of emotional distress for some, and for others, it has been very peaceful. In my case, I have experienced both."

The 'Iron Man' actor said that she has now started to "settle down" in her "brain and body."

She added of the lockdown, "It has given me new perspective about how much I will take on going forward."

Paltrow noted that before the quarantine, she was always trying to get "wellness moments" in, but she wasn't "really decompressing" until the weekends or on vacations.

"Now I feel different, letting my body go to sleep and wake up in its natural rhythm, having my kids around all the time, eating meals together and having meaningful conversations," she said of her children,16-year-old daughter Apple, and 14-year-old son Moses, whom she shares with ex Chris Martin.

Paltrow noted, "We linger at the table; our dinners are an hour and a half long. My heart feels fuller, and my mind feels calmer in that respect."

For how she de-stresses, the 'Spider-Man: Homecoming' actor said, "I try to do exercises every day for my back and neck because of all the Zoom calls I'm on."

In addition, Paltrow says she and her husband Brad Falchuk go for walks at least three to four times per week. She also takes online fitness and yoga classes.

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June 22,2020

New Delhi, Jun 22: Amidst a strain in the ties between India and Nepal, actor Manisha Koirala, a Nepali national, on Monday urged people of both the countries to be not "aggressive and disrespectful" towards each other.

Koirala, a leading Bollywood actor of her times, took to Twitter to request people to let the respective government resolve the issues and stay "civil."

"A heartfelt request please let's not be aggressive and disrespectful..we are in this situation together..our respective Gov's will resolve the issue. In the meantime we can be civil ..I remain hopeful," she tweeted.

Earlier last week, Nepal 's Upper House of Parliament endorsed a proposal to discuss the Constitution amendment bill to update the country's map that incorporates parts of Indian territory.

Nepal's House of Representatives had on June 10 endorsed a proposal seeking consideration of a constitution amendment bill for change of country's map after a lengthy discussion. Nepal has made offers to India to hold "diplomatic talks to resolve the territorial issue" between the two countries.

New Delhi has said that the updated map is "not based on historical facts and evidence" and termed the claims by Nepal as artificial enlargement.

External Affairs Ministry spokesperson Anurag Srivastava also said that the move is violative of the current understanding to hold talks on outstanding boundary issues.

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March 7,2020

Mumbai, Mar 7: A 'farm-to-fork' themed restaurant 'He-Man' situated on National Highway in Haryana's Karnal -- franchised by veteran Bollywood actor Dharmendra -- has been sealed for building law violations, officials said on Saturday.

The Karnal Municipal Corporation sealed the franchise outlet on Friday for not furnishing the change of land use (CLU) certificate and illegal constructions, an official said.

The restaurant is located on National Highway 44 on the outskirts of Karnal, some 150 km from here.

The franchise was given to Delhi-based businessman Pramod Kumar.

"After the success of my restaurant Garam Dharam Dhaba, I am now announcing a farm-to- fork themed restaurant 'He-Man'," Dharmendra had announced on Instagram after its launch on Valentine's Day.

Karnal Deputy Commissioner Nishant Yadav said the action was initiated as the restaurant owner did not respond to MC notice on the issue.

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