Fight your battles wisely, says Vishakha Singh after taking on Facebook abuser

June 16, 2015

Vishakha SinghMumbai, Jun 16: Vishakha Singh, actor and producer, shot to notoriety recently when she decided to not ignore a lecherous comment directed at her on social media. When she put up a photograph of herself on Facebook, one MD Mustakim Saifi responded with “Nice looking & nice boobs”. Singh saw red and cut him down to size with her own comment, in which she wrote (among other things),"Have the guts to say it on my face?? Else, get off my page." Soon after, Singh took this post, which had gone viral, offline. "Deleted the post that went viral," she wrote as explanation. "Not afraid of anyone but simply tired of unwanted negativity. A big thanks to all those who supported."

Currently, in Italy on a work trip, Singh took time out to speak to us about this incident.

As a woman celeb, what has been your experience on social media?

Being on social media is an occupational hazard. It's a great way to connect with the audience during film releases and feedback. However, the incessant harassment by a few people can make the experience unpleasant.

How and why did you decide to reply to this particular comment?

People assume that I woke up one fine day and just did it. No, I have had such experiences before. My social media team tries and blocks/report and delete such comments. But it's a mammoth task.

This particular person had been sending lewd messages to me in my inbox for a while. However, when he came commented on my wall; especially hiding behind a child's picture, I decided to reply. It was as simple as that. I have no idea why everyone else decided to get involved.

You said that you got negative publicity.

I am in Rome currently. Just the fact that I was trending in India was itself a shock to me! The next day I woke up to a picture being circulated that showed my official fan page liking a similar comment earlier. Fortunately my social media team informed me that it was not authentic. We wrote to websites that circulated it and asked if they had proof of the picture's authenticity. They did not. And hence most took it down. Some even wrote an apology.

Why didn't you take legal action?

I believe in conflict resolution. Simple emails were enough to resolve issues with certain websites. But yes, we have sent legal notices to some. Classic Threader community on FB was shut down after being served. We received an apology from them as well. Some others are also being served.

Do you think India needs better cyber laws to protect women in particular?

Yes, most certainly. Stricter cyber laws and a well defined code of ethics for online media as well.

With the Internet, harassment has moved online. How do you think women can tackle this?

I am lucky as I come from a privileged background. I have access to good lawyers and have a strong support system. However, for millions of Indian women this may not be the case. They are in survival mode and wish to avoid unnecessary confrontations. This is understandable. Until we reach a point where a stricter law is in place; stay strong, stay safe. And fight your battles wisely.

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New Delhi, Jun 22: Musician Madonna, who is a mother of six, wished herself on the occasion of Father's Day on Sunday by posting adorable pictures with her kids.

Along with pictures, the 'Crazy For You' singer penned down a beautiful caption, wishing herself and every parent a 'Happy Father's Day' for nurturing and guiding their children in the best way possible.

"Happy Fathers Day to Me and to every parent out there doing their best to Nurture, Guide, Inspire, and Teach! #Lola #Rocco #David #Mercyjames #Estere #Stella," the 61-year-old singer wrote in the caption.

Madonna is the biological mother to two of her six children and has adopted the rest four.

She had adopted her first child Davida Banda back in 2006 and then she adopted a boy in 2009. The last addition to her family were the twins she adopted from Malawi.

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March 11,2020

Washington, Mar 11: Pop star Selena Gomez made some revelations about her personal life in a recent interview.

While explaining the lyrics of her song "Rare" on the 'Genius' YouTube channel, the 27-year-old said that there are times when she feels that she will ever be able to find a suitable partner for herself, reported Fox News.

"Some days when I wake up and I am annoyed and I am like, 'I am going to be alone forever.' But after that 15 minutes go away, I say to myself, 'I know that there is someone for everybody," the singer told in the seven-and-a-half minute long video.

However, she remains optimistic as she is still young and "this isn't the end all be all".

Elaborating upon the chorus of her song, Gomez opened up and said, "self-esteem and confidence is a constant struggle".

"It's getting better with time and age, but it will always be something that I'm working on," she added while explaining the lyrics further.

"So what I think is so important about this chorus is that it's acknowledging, 'Hey, I don't have it all. I'm not saying I'm perfect, but I do know that I'm special,' and I think that is a humble approach of saying, 'Why don't you see that I am different?'" the singer added as reported by Fox News.

Touching upon her experiences from past relationships, she commented: "In certain relationships, I've heard and I've experienced and whatnot, I think men and women do it -- especially teenagers and young people in love -- is there's this satisfaction out of hurting someone because you know that they care. Purposefully putting someone down because they want to keep them at a level. I've had someone actually say that to me before".

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May 17,2020

Mumbai, May 17: TV actor Manmeet Grewal, who worked on shows like "Aadat Se Majboor" and "Kuldeepak", committed suicide after struggling with dwindling finances amid lockdown, family friend-producer Manjit Singh Rajput said.

Grewal, who was originally from Punjab, hanged himself on Friday night at his Kharghar residence here where he lived with his wife. He was 32.

Rajput, who had known Grewal for nearly seven years, said the actor was facing "financial crisis" and wasn't able to earn due to the lockdown. 

"He was going through a major financial issue and he was also in depression. The added pressure of not being able to repay loans amid this (no work phase) got to him. His wife is completely shocked and devastated," Rajput told PTI.

The producer said last rites of the actor were performed on Saturday. 

Grewal was working on projects like a webseries and some commercials, which were put on hold due to the nationwide lockdown amid the coronavirus pandemic. 

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