(August 12 is International Youth Day)
A changeover from innocent childhood to a decent youth is what everyone would like to witness in every growing and budding kid. Youth is an age where excitement, aggression and confusion is rolled into one, and yet it is a testing phase of one’s life. The major decision of selecting a career is sealed during this period.
Stepping into adolescence is like entering turbulent storm when you come out from the cosseted days of care, schooling and utmost nurturing. The age of youth hood will make you or break you, put you down in the dust or help you scale newer heights for the greater glory of your grand future. We should be able to differentiate between what would be a right thing and what might be wrong, because a little hiccup and all could be lost forever.
We stand at the threshold of time where life is taking a U-turn. The pressure to excel has superseded the necessity of survival. The true essence and purpose of life is losing grounds because a majority youth spend their time in tuition classes, chilling out with friends and watching TV and gaming. They are not eager to dream larger than life and think more than what people say is practical although most of them are capable with hidden potentials that lay rusted. Most of the adolescents are satisfied with what they get. But one thing is certain under high heaven, we need to walk the untrodden path to achieve the unimaginable dream.
Our youth of today get carried away easily by the endless things available for them. They invest more time in unfruitful activities rather than doing things which would eventually benefit themselves and society as a whole.
True that youth is a time for developing independence. But adolescents typically exercise their authority by questioning their parent’s rules, which at times leads to rule breaking. Take for example, a young lad in his early teen drinks at a pub and comes home late at night. What does that reflect? Indeed this gives a bad impression about his upbringing and parenting. More this becomes a vicious circle and his colleagues get influenced and driven by it. Other friends also feel the itch to try out stuffs like this. It only takes a try or two in order to make this habit a permanent one. Moreover this kind of attitude builds on to ruin life.
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Teenage years are a funny time in life when the person faces up to several new problems. But the biggest problem is they go about hunting for solutions and answers to the wrong people, later on coming to a regretted conclusion.
Discussing case sensitive issues like bodily changes and sexual attractions with their parents often ends up in an awkward scenario. Because most of the parents do not welcome, rather not too open about such issues. Many a time we observe situations where youth are found discussing such matters with their colleagues and friends, only to be misguided. The parents play a vital role to get their boy or girl into the comfort zone wherein they would feel the real satisfaction of having spoken about such matter with their parents. An understanding and sympathy oriented approach will always win in the end. Adolescents who feel warmth and support from their parents are less likely to engage in risky behavior. Also, adolescents who parents convey clear expectations regarding their children’s behavior and show consistent limit setting and monitoring are less likely to engage in risky behavior. Definitely authoritative parenting is a parenting style in which children participate in establishing family expectation
s and rules. This parenting style, as opposed to harsh or permissive parenting, is most likely to promote mature behavior.
Authoritative parents typically use a system of graduated privileges, in which adolescents initially are given small bits of responsibility and freedom like doing household chores, picking out clothing, caring for a pet. If adolescents handle this responsibility well then may over a period of time, more privileges are granted. Each new privilege requires close monitoring by the parents to make sure adolescents comply with agreed on rules. These are some rare occasions where some parents and adolescents clash over almost everything. In such situations, the core issue is really control Adolescents want to feel in control of their lives and parents want their teens to realize, they are still boss.
Youth whose behavior is dangerous or otherwise unacceptable despite their parents best efforts should be given professional intervention failing which we would be unable to predict the odds. Substance abuse is a common trigger of behavioral problems, and substance use disorders require specific treatment. Age of youth brings in different, newer, first time episodes. Gang Membership linked with violent behavior is one of them. Our youth though not all, indulge in self formed associations adopting a particular name, symbol of existence, style of clothing etc so on and so forth. This could be limited by reducing our adolescent’s excess Media violence exposure, prevent them from watching movies, provoking indulgence into fights and crimes. Weapons should be kept out of reach from aggressive, hot tempered youth and the pros and cons should be explained to them.
Wrong, unrealistic ideologies watched in movies about friendship and courtship develops. Although we have heard so much of debate on the topic whether sex education should be made Mandatory in school, I strongly feel it is sort of necessary. Youth are unaware and often misled about many a thing they would like to know. STD (sexually transmitted disease) is a cause of concern among the younger generation, basically the higher strata of society who indulge in pre-marital relationship without knowing the after effects.
Various precautionary measures could be highlighted through sex-education. For eg the importance of using contraceptive to avoid unwanted pregnancy and moreover abortion. Sex education generally covers the issues of virginity, pregnancy, body changes, legal age for sex and marriage, when a certain act would be a sexual offences etc. By this a student become aware of the world around him and begins to differentiate right and wrong.
Alcoholism is another teething trouble faced by the youth of today. About 72% of high school seniors report having tried alcohol, although only 58% say they have ever been drunk. Society and the Media portray drinking alcohol as acceptable or even fashionable. Alcohol consumed in any form be it whisky, beer, rum, vodka is 100% injurious to health. Moreover drunkards are not liked by anyone personally although movies portray A-class glamour. Many a times we often hear youngsters say, they drink because they feel relieved of their worries and stress. They do not realize that consumption of alcohol infact increases their hassle and anxiety; all in all it adds a new set of health concerns, aggravating liver and heart diseases. Despite influence from media, society and surroundings, parents can make a difference by conveying clear expectation to their children regarding drinking, setting limits consistently and monitoring. On the other hand, adolescents whose family members drink excessive may think this behavior is acceptable.
Some adolescents who try alcohol go on to develop an alcohol use disorder, such as abuse or dependence. Risk factors for developing a disorder include starting drinking at a young age. Adolescents who have a family member with an alcohol use disorder should be made aware of their increased risk and susceptibility. Suicidal thoughts creep into the mind. Cases of suicide have risen to 12% in the last decade. Factors that trigger suicide are high stress, loss of boyfriend or girlfriend, poor performances which does not improve unwanted pregnancy, family instability and many more. Such problems should be dealt along with positive approach and with utmost care.
Teenagers generally begin to smoke cigarettes during this period. Youngsters feel such stuff is cool and provides mood elevation. Most of the active smokers do not realize the dreadful disease that comes along with smoking. Risk of lung cancer, is highest among smokers. Factors that increase the likelihood of an adolescent smoking are having parents who smoke or peers and role models mainly celebrities who smoke. Poor performance, poor self-esteem a feeling of dejection in life are high risk factors which are associated often with smoking. Youngsters could be prevented from smoking by making them understand the ill-effects of smoking and the diseases related to it. Parents can help prevent their adolescent from smoking by being positive role models, openly discussing hazards of tobacco and supporting them in seeking medical assistance if necessary.
Home environment and family have a great impact on the developing minds of teenagers and these developments may reach a climax. A strong foundation of spirituality and religion should be stressed upon so that youngsters realize the presence of the Divine in their life. Stepping into college life, making friends with people from cross cultural barriers and peer pressure should be carefully looked into because peer pressure which plays a crucial role may lead to activities not deemed socially acceptable if not closely monitored although this may be more of a social phenomenon.
Mobiles, movies, websites, videos, sports music, TV are heavily marketed and popular among youth. But one should understand what the priorities in life are. What are our primary goals? This cannot be taught to anybody by anyone. We have to draw our own conclusions. Parents work hard enough to pump in the money needed for education and recreation. At least for this sake we should remember our purpose of existence and try give something in return. I don’t deny, youth is an age where paradoxes reign supreme but be prepared and focused for highs and lows because you’ll have it all. Never quit because of anxiety, depression, and failure. No matter what, live the grandeur of your dream. Above all don’t let the noise of other peoples opinion settle in your mind, listen to your own voice and follow where it leads… lastly remember your life is yours to design, so make it all it can be! At this juncture I wish you many sweet victories.
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