The confusing age of youth !!

August 12, 2010

(August 12 is International Youth Day)

A changeover from innocent childhood to a decent youth is what everyone would like to witness in every growing and budding kid. Youth is an age where excitement, aggression and confusion is rolled into one, and yet it is a testing phase of one’s life. The major decision of selecting a career is sealed during this period.

Stepping into adolescence is like entering turbulent storm when you come out from the cosseted days of care, schooling and utmost nurturing. The age of youth hood will make you or break you, put you down in the dust or help you scale newer heights for the greater glory of your grand future. We should be able to differentiate between what would be a right thing and what might be wrong, because a little hiccup and all could be lost forever.

We stand at the threshold of time where life is taking a U-turn. The pressure to excel has superseded the necessity of survival. The true essence and purpose of life is losing grounds because a majority youth spend their time in tuition classes, chilling out with friends and watching TV and gaming. They are not eager to dream larger than life and think more than what people say is practical although most of them are capable with hidden potentials that lay rusted. Most of the adolescents are satisfied with what they get. But one thing is certain under high heaven, we need to walk the untrodden path to achieve the unimaginable dream.

Our youth of today get carried away easily by the endless things available for them. They invest more time in unfruitful activities rather than doing things which would eventually benefit themselves and society as a whole.

True that youth is a time for developing independence. But adolescents typically exercise their authority by questioning their parent’s rules, which at times leads to rule breaking. Take for example, a young lad in his early teen drinks at a pub and comes home late at night. What does that reflect? Indeed this gives a bad impression about his upbringing and parenting. More this becomes a vicious circle and his colleagues get influenced and driven by it. Other friends also feel the itch to try out stuffs like this. It only takes a try or two in order to make this habit a permanent one. Moreover this kind of attitude builds on to ruin life.

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Teenage years are a funny time in life when the person faces up to several new problems. But the biggest problem is they go about hunting for solutions and answers to the wrong people, later on coming to a regretted conclusion.

Discussing case sensitive issues like bodily changes and sexual attractions with their parents often ends up in an awkward scenario. Because most of the parents do not welcome, rather not too open about such issues. Many a time we observe situations where youth are found discussing such matters with their colleagues and friends, only to be misguided. The parents play a vital role to get their boy or girl into the comfort zone wherein they would feel the real satisfaction of having spoken about such matter with their parents. An understanding and sympathy oriented approach will always win in the end. Adolescents who feel warmth and support from their parents are less likely to engage in risky behavior. Also, adolescents who parents convey clear expectations regarding their children’s behavior and show consistent limit setting and monitoring are less likely to engage in risky behavior. Definitely authoritative parenting is a parenting style in which children participate in establishing family expectation
s and rules. This parenting style, as opposed to harsh or permissive parenting, is most likely to promote mature behavior.

Authoritative parents typically use a system of graduated privileges, in which adolescents initially are given small bits of responsibility and freedom like doing household chores, picking out clothing, caring for a pet. If adolescents handle this responsibility well then may over a period of time, more privileges are granted. Each new privilege requires close monitoring by the parents to make sure adolescents comply with agreed on rules. These are some rare occasions where some parents and adolescents clash over almost everything. In such situations, the core issue is really control Adolescents want to feel in control of their lives and parents want their teens to realize, they are still boss.

Youth whose behavior is dangerous or otherwise unacceptable despite their parents best efforts should be given professional intervention failing which we would be unable to predict the odds. Substance abuse is a common trigger of behavioral problems, and substance use disorders require specific treatment. Age of youth brings in different, newer, first time episodes. Gang Membership linked with violent behavior is one of them. Our youth though not all, indulge in self formed associations adopting a particular name, symbol of existence, style of clothing etc so on and so forth. This could be limited by reducing our adolescent’s excess Media violence exposure, prevent them from watching movies, provoking indulgence into fights and crimes. Weapons should be kept out of reach from aggressive, hot tempered youth and the pros and cons should be explained to them.

Wrong, unrealistic ideologies watched in movies about friendship and courtship develops. Although we have heard so much of debate on the topic whether sex education should be made Mandatory in school, I strongly feel it is sort of necessary. Youth are unaware and often misled about many a thing they would like to know. STD (sexually transmitted disease) is a cause of concern among the younger generation, basically the higher strata of society who indulge in pre-marital relationship without knowing the after effects.

Various precautionary measures could be highlighted through sex-education. For eg the importance of using contraceptive to avoid unwanted pregnancy and moreover abortion. Sex education generally covers the issues of virginity, pregnancy, body changes, legal age for sex and marriage, when a certain act would be a sexual offences etc. By this a student become aware of the world around him and begins to differentiate right and wrong.

Alcoholism is another teething trouble faced by the youth of today. About 72% of high school seniors report having tried alcohol, although only 58% say they have ever been drunk. Society and the Media portray drinking alcohol as acceptable or even fashionable. Alcohol consumed in any form be it whisky, beer, rum, vodka is 100% injurious to health. Moreover drunkards are not liked by anyone personally although movies portray A-class glamour. Many a times we often hear youngsters say, they drink because they feel relieved of their worries and stress. They do not realize that consumption of alcohol infact increases their hassle and anxiety; all in all it adds a new set of health concerns, aggravating liver and heart diseases. Despite influence from media, society and surroundings, parents can make a difference by conveying clear expectation to their children regarding drinking, setting limits consistently and monitoring. On the other hand, adolescents whose family members drink excessive may think this behavior is acceptable.

Some adolescents who try alcohol go on to develop an alcohol use disorder, such as abuse or dependence. Risk factors for developing a disorder include starting drinking at a young age. Adolescents who have a family member with an alcohol use disorder should be made aware of their increased risk and susceptibility. Suicidal thoughts creep into the mind. Cases of suicide have risen to 12% in the last decade. Factors that trigger suicide are high stress, loss of boyfriend or girlfriend, poor performances which does not improve unwanted pregnancy, family instability and many more. Such problems should be dealt along with positive approach and with utmost care.

Teenagers generally begin to smoke cigarettes during this period. Youngsters feel such stuff is cool and provides mood elevation. Most of the active smokers do not realize the dreadful disease that comes along with smoking. Risk of lung cancer, is highest among smokers. Factors that increase the likelihood of an adolescent smoking are having parents who smoke or peers and role models mainly celebrities who smoke. Poor performance, poor self-esteem a feeling of dejection in life are high risk factors which are associated often with smoking. Youngsters could be prevented from smoking by making them understand the ill-effects of smoking and the diseases related to it. Parents can help prevent their adolescent from smoking by being positive role models, openly discussing hazards of tobacco and supporting them in seeking medical assistance if necessary.

Home environment and family have a great impact on the developing minds of teenagers and these developments may reach a climax. A strong foundation of spirituality and religion should be stressed upon so that youngsters realize the presence of the Divine in their life. Stepping into college life, making friends with people from cross cultural barriers and peer pressure should be carefully looked into because peer pressure which plays a crucial role may lead to activities not deemed socially acceptable if not closely monitored although this may be more of a social phenomenon.

Mobiles, movies, websites, videos, sports music, TV are heavily marketed and popular among youth. But one should understand what the priorities in life are. What are our primary goals? This cannot be taught to anybody by anyone. We have to draw our own conclusions. Parents work hard enough to pump in the money needed for education and recreation. At least for this sake we should remember our purpose of existence and try give something in return. I don’t deny, youth is an age where paradoxes reign supreme but be prepared and focused for highs and lows because you’ll have it all. Never quit because of anxiety, depression, and failure. No matter what, live the grandeur of your dream. Above all don’t let the noise of other peoples opinion settle in your mind, listen to your own voice and follow where it leads… lastly remember your life is yours to design, so make it all it can be! At this juncture I wish you many sweet victories.

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Ram Puniyani
July 20,2020

As Covid 19 has created havoc all rounds, the rulers of certain countries are using it to further intensify their set agendas. The democratic freedoms are being curtailed in certain forms, the reaction to which has come in America in the form of a campaign, which is opposing “stifling” cultural climate that is imposing “ideological conformity” and weakening “norms of open debate and toleration of differences”. In India similar intimidations have been intensified. In addition the occasion has been used by the sectarian forces first to link the spread of Corona to Muslim community and now in the name of reducing the burden of curriculum certain chapters on core concepts related to Indian nationalism are being deleted from the text books.

It has been reported that chapters on federalism, citizenship, nationalism, secularism, Human Rights, Legal Aid and Local Self Government and the like are being dropped. Education has been an important area for communal forces and they constantly keep saying that leftists have dominated the curriculum content, it suffers from the impact of Macaulay, Marx and Mohammad and so needs to be Indianized. The first such attempt was done when BJP came to power in 1998 as NDA and had Murli Manohar Joshi as the MHRD minister. He brought the changes which were termed as ‘saffronization of education’. Their focus is more on social science. Some of the highlights of this were introduction of subjects like Astrology and Paurohitya, and chapters defending caste system, nationalism of the type of Hitler was praised.

With defeat of NDA in 2004, the UPA did try to rectify some of these distortions. Again after 2014 the RSS affiliates working in the area of education have been active, interacting with MHRD officials to impress upon them the need to change the curriculum matching with their Hindu nationalist agenda. Its ‘Shiksha Sanskriti Utthan Nyas’ has been asking for removal of English, Urdu words in the texts. It has asked for removal of thoughts of Rabindranath Tagore on Nationalism, extracts of autobiography of M F Husain, references to benevolence of Muslim rulers, references to BJP being Hindu party, apology of Dr. Manmohan Singh for anti Sikh pogrom of 1984, the reference to killings of Gujarat carnage in 2002 among others. This they call as Bhartiykaran of syllabus.

As RSS is a multithreaded hydra one of its pracharak Dinanath Batra has set up ‘Shiksha Bachao Abhiyan Samiti’ which has been pressurizing various publishers to drop the books which are not conforming to their ideology. One recalls their pressuring withdrawal of Wendy Doniger’s ‘The Hindus’, as it does present the ancient India through the concerns of dalits and women. Mr. Batra has already come out with a set of nine books for school curriculum, giving the RSS view of the past and RSS understanding of social sciences. These have already been translated into Gujarati and thousands of the sets of these books are being used in Gujarat Schools.

The present step of deleting parts of curriculum which gives the basics of Indian Nationalism, secularism and human rights is a further step in the same direction. These are the topics which have made the Hindu nationalists uncomfortable during last few years. They have been defaming secularism. They removed it from the preamble of Indian constitution, when they put out an ad on the eve of Republic day in 2015. From last few decades since the Ram Temple movement was brought up, simultaneously the secular ethos of India’s freedom movement and secular values of Indian constitution have been constantly criticized. Many an RSS ideologues and BJP leaders have been asking for change of Indian Constitution for this very reason.

Secularism is part of the concept of Indian nationalism. In the name of religious nationalism, sectarian divisive nationalism they have been attacking various student leaders in particular. When we study Nationalism, the very genesis of Indian nationalism tells us the plurality of our freedom movement with its anti colonial roots. The struggle was for Indian nationalism and so the Muslims and Hindu communalists kept aloof from this great struggle against colonial masters, it was this struggle which built the Indian nation with all its diversity.

Similarly as we have equal rights as citizens the chapters on citizenship are being dropped. Federalism has been the core part of India’s administrative and political structure. As the dictatorial tendencies are becoming stronger, federalism is bound to suffer and that explains the dropping of this subject. Democracy is decentralization of power. Power reaching the lowermost part of the system, the villages and average citizens. This got reflected in Local self Government. The power is distributed among villages, cities, state and center. By removing chapters on federalism and local self government, the indications of the ideology of ruling party are on display.

While we are not dealing with all the portents of the planned omissions, one more aspect that related to dropping of chapter on Human rights needs our attention. The concept of Human rights and dignity are interlinked. This concept of Human rights also has international ramifications. India is signatory to many an UN covenants related to Human rights. The indications are clear that now rights will be for the few elite and ‘duties’ for the large deprived sections will be put on the forefront.

In a way this incidental ‘Corona gifted opportunity’ to the ruling Government is being fully used to enhance the agenda of ruling party in the arena of Educational Curriculum. The part of curriculum with which the ruling party is uncomfortable is being removed. This act of omission does supplement their other acts of commission in changing the shape of educational curriculum, which are reflected in RSS affiliates’ suggestions to MHRD regarding Bhartiyakaran of contents of syllabus. As per this the things like regarding the great epics like Ramayana and Mahabharata as History, the things like India having all the stem cell technology, plastic surgery, aviation science etc. will have a place in the changes planned by communal forces!

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Ram Puniyani
March 8,2020

They say ‘history repeats itself first as a tragedy and then as a farce’. In case of India, communal violence not only keeps repeating itself, the pattern of the tragedy keeps changing every next time. Some features of the violence are constant, but they are under the wraps mostly. The same can be said about the Delhi violence (February 2020). The interpretations, the causative factors are very discernible, but those who are generally the perpetrators have a knack of shifting the blame on the victim community or those who stand for the victims.

As the carnage began presumably in the aftermath of statement of Kapil Mishra of BJP, which was given in front of a top police official, in which he threatened to get the roads emptied. The roots of violence were sown earlier. The interpretations given by the Hindu Nationalist camp is that the riot is due to the changing demographic profile of the area with Muslims increasing in number in those areas, and coming up of Shaheen Bagh which was presented was like ‘Mini Pakistan’. As per them the policies of BJP in matters of triple talaq, Article 370 and CAA, NPR, NRC has unnerved the ‘radical’ elements and so this violence.

As such before coming to the observations of the activists and scholars of communal violence in India, we can in brief say that violence, in which nearly 46 people have died, include one from police and another from intelligence. Majority victims are Muslims. The violence started right under the nose of the police and the ruling party. From the videos and other eye accounts, police not only looked the other way around, at places it assisted those attacking the innocent victims and burning and looting selective shops. Home minister, Amit Shah, was nowhere on the scene. For first three days the rioters had free run. After the paramilitary force was brought in; the violence simmered and slowly reduced in intensity. The state AAP Government, which in a way is the byproduct of RSS supported Anna Hazare movement, was busy reading Hanuman Chalisa and praying at Rajghat with eyes closed to the mayhem going in parts of Delhi.

Communal violence is the sore point of Indian society. It did begin during colonial period due to British policy of ‘Divide and Rule’. At root cause was the communal view of looking at history and pro active British acts to sow the seeds of Hindu-Muslim divide. At other level the administrative and police the British were fairly neutral. On one hand was the national movement, uniting the people and creating and strengthening the fraternal feeling among all Indians. On the other were Muslim Communalists (Muslim League) and Hindu Communalists (Hindu Mahasabha, RSS) who assisted the British goal of ‘divide and rule’ promoting hatred between the communities. After partition the first major change was the change in attitude of police and administration which started tilting against Muslims. Major studies by Dr. Asghar Ali Engineer, Paul Brass and Omar Khalidi demonstrated that anti Muslim bias is discernible in during and after the riots.

Now the partisan role of police has been visible all through. Sri Krishna Commission report brought forth this fact; as did the research of the Ex DIG of UP police Dr. V.N.Rai. Dr. Rai’s studies also concluded that no communal violence can go on beyond 24 hours unless state administration is complicit in the carnage. In one of the violence, investigation of which was done by concerned Citizen’s team (Dhule, 2013) this author observed that police itself went on to undertake the rampage against Muslims and Muslim properties.

General observation about riots is that violence sounds to be spontaneous, as the Home Minister is pointing out, but as such it is well planned act. Again the violence is orchestrated in such a way that it seems Muslims have begun the riots. Who casts the First stone? To this scholars point out that the carnage is so organized that the encircled community is forced to throw the first stone. At places the pretext is made that ‘they’ (minorities) have thrown the first stone.

The pretexts against minorities are propagated, in Gujarat violence Godhra train burning, in Kandhamal the murder of Swami Laxamannand and now Shaheen bagh! The Hindu Muslim violence began as riots. But it is no more a riot, two sides are not involved. It is plain and simple anti Minority violence, in which some from the majority are also the victims.

This violence is possible as the ‘Hate against this minority’ is now more or less structural. The deeper Hate against Muslims and partly against Christians; has been cultivated since long and Hindu nationalist politics, right from its Shakhas to the social media have been put to use for spreading Hatred. The prevalent deeper hate has been supplanted this time by multiple utterances from BJP leaders, Modi (Can be recognized by clothes), Shah (press EVM machine button so hard that current is felt in Shaheen Bagh), Anurag Thakur (Goli (bullet) Maro) Yogi Aditya Nath (If Boli (Words)Do not work Goli will) and Parvesh Varma (They will be out to rape).

The incidental observation of the whole tragedy is the coming to surface of true colors of AAP, which not only kept mum as the carnage was peaking but also went on to praise the role of police in the whole episode. With Delhi carnage “Goli Maro” seems to be becoming the central slogan of Hindu nationalists. Delhi’s this violence has been the first one in which those getting killed are more due to bullets than by swords or knifes! Leader’s slogans do not go in vain! Courts the protectors of our Constitution seem to be of little help as if one of them like Murlidhar Rao gives the verdict to file against hate mongers, he is immediately transferred.

And lastly let’s recall the academic study of Yale University. It concludes; BJP gains in electoral strength after every riot’. In India the grip of communalism is increasing frighteningly. Efforts are needed to combat Hate and Hate mongers.

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Ram Puniyani
June 29,2020

In Minneapolis, US an African American, George Floyd lost his life as the white policeman, Derek Chauvin, caught hold of him and put his knee on his neck. This is a technique developed by Israel police. For nine long minutes the knee of the while policeman was on the neck of George, who kept shouting, I can’t breathe.

Following this gruesome murder America erupted with protests, ‘Black lives matter’. The protestors were not just African Americans but also a large section of whites. Within US one police Chief apologized for the act of this. In a touching gesture of apology the police force came on its knees. This had reverberations in different parts of the World.

The act was the outcome of the remnants of the racial hatred against blacks by the whites. It is the hatred and the perceptions which are the roots of such acts of violence. What was also touching that the state of democracy in US is so deep that even the police apologized, the nation, whites and blacks, stood up as a sensitive collective against this violence.

US is not the only country where the brutal acts of violence torment the marginalized sections of society. In India there is a list of dalits, minorities and adivasis who are regularly subjected to such acts. But the reaction is very different. We have witnessed the case of Tabrez Ansari, who was tied to the pole by the mob and beaten ruthlessly. When he was taken to police station, police took enough time to take him to hospital and Tabrez died.

Mohsin Sheikh, a Pune techie was murdered by Hindu Rashtra Sena mob, the day Modi came to power in 2014. Afrazul was killed by Shambhulal Regar, videotaped the act released on social media. Regar believed that Muslims are indulging in love Jihad, so deserve such a fate. Mohammad Akhlaq is one among many names who were mob lynched on the issue of beef cow. The list can fill pages after pages.

Recently a young dalit boy was shot dead for the crime of entering a temple. In Una four dalits were stripped above waste and beaten mercilessly. Commenting on this act the Union Minister Ramvilas Paswan commented that it is a minor incident. Again the list of atrocities against dalits is long enough. The question is what Paswan is saying is the typical response to such gruesome murders and tortures. In US loss of one black life, created the democratic and humane response. In India there is a general silence in response to these atrocities. Some times after a good lapse of time, the Prime Minister will utter, ‘Mother Bharati has lost a son’. Most of the time victim is blamed. Some social groups raise their voice in some fora but by and large the deafening silence from the country is the norm.

India is regarded as the largest democracy. Democracy is the rule of law, and the ground on which the injustices are opposed. In America though the present President is insensitive person, but its institutions and processes of democratic articulations are strong. The institutions have deepened their roots and though prejudices may be guiding the actions of some of the officers like the killer of George, there are also police officers who can tell their President to shut up if he has nothing meaningful to say on the issue. The prejudices against Blacks may be prevalent and deep in character, still there are large average sections of society, who on the principles of ‘Black lives matter’. There are large sections of vocal population who can protest the violation of basic norms of democracy and humanism.

In India by contrast there are multiple reasons as to why the lives of Tabrez Ansari, Mohammad Akhlaq, Una dalit victims and their likes don’t matter. Though we claim that we are a democracy, insensitivity to injustices is on the rise. The strong propaganda against the people from margins has become so vicious during last few decades that any violence against them has become sort of a new normal. The large populace, though disturbed by such brutalities, is also fed the strong dose of biases against the victims. The communal forces have a great command over effective section of media and large section of social media, which generates Hate against these disadvantaged groups, thereby the response is muted, if at all.

As such also the process of deepening of our democracy has been weak. Democracy is a dynamic process; it’s not a fixed entity. Decades ago workers and dalits could protest for their rights. Now even if peasants make strong protests, dominant media presents it as blocking of traffic! How the roots of democracy are eroded and are visible in the form where the criticism of the ruling dispensation is labelled as anti National..

Our institutions have been eroded over a period of time, and these institutions coming to the rescue of the marginalized sections have been now become unthinkable. The outreach of communal, divisive ideology, the ideology which looks down on minorities, dalits and Adivasis has risen by leaps and bounds.

The democracy in India is gradually being turned in to a hollow shell, the rule of law being converted in to rule of an ideology, which does not have faith in Indian Constitution, which looks down upon pluralism and diversity of this country, which is more concerned for the privileges of the upper caste, rich and affluent. The crux of the matter is the weak nature of democracy, which was on way to become strong, but from decades of 1980s, as emotive issues took over, the strength of democracy started dwindling, and that’s when the murders of the types of George Floyd, become passé. One does complement the deeper roots of American democracy and its ability to protect the democratic institutions, which is not the case in India, where protests of the type, which were witnessed after George Floyd’s murder may be unthinkable, at least in the present times. 

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